Life and the Mind

Options

2006-12-04T12:58:00.000+08:00

In everything you think, feel and do, you should always have options. This is the best strategy in life. Always remember to have plan A UP TO Plan Z to be sure because life is difficult. When you run out of options what is left is nothing which means you become nothing and when you're nothing what will happen to you? Nothing!!!

If you want to have something you should do something and what is this something? Simply options!!! The only thing to do with your options is learn to prioritize according to your own criteria based on your own situation. Then, act it out and take the responsibility in your own decision. Always learn from your mistakes in order to perfect the imperfect. This is the only way to survive in life.

Help yourself to be the best that you can become like capitalize from your potentials in order for you to have many options. Be open to many things which you think may help you succeed in life. Sometimes you may choose to risk as long as it is a calculated risk. The power is within you discover it now or never!

Dentistry The Best Course

2006-12-03T11:08:00.000+08:00

In my own analysis of different courses or professions, I found out that the dental field is the best. Why? For the following reasons: it is cheaper than medicine (in terms of tuition fee and shorter than medicine in terms of professional preparation only 5 years), you have a title before your name "Dr." which is a value among Filipinos, be of service to a lot of people especially to the young in terms of dental hygiene etc., financial promise by earning a lot of money, job stability, but do you know the best reason?

The best reason is you don't have a boss. You are the boss!!! The worst kind of employment is you have a boss and you are an employee because you will never become rich if you are an employee. The best is being self-employed like being a dentist either at home or in the company or both (more money!),

That's why parents should motivate their children to take up courses which will give them self-employment like dentistry. Don't let your children take up courses which will only make them forever employees and suffer the injustices in the workplace like crab mentality, sexual harrassment, losing one's dignity and self respect from your boss etc. Parents save your children from wrong choice of course/profession!!!

If I will be given another life I will choose to become a dentist for sanity purpose first and foremost because being an employee is the worst choice that I ever done in in my life. It is the reason why people become criminals, insanes, atheists and simply zombies (corrupt etc.).

God's Sadisitic Love

2006-12-02T10:36:00.000+08:00

What kind of God is your God? My God is a God of Love but He loves sadistically because the more He loves the more he rebukes you.

The more you pray, try your best to be holy and do good, the more He sends you trials up to the extent of giving up to your faith. But the moment you give up, it is the time He will rescue you (Footprints in the Sand. It is unfair! Is He playing with me, with my life? What is this, "Spiritual Sadism/Masochism?"

That's why sometimes it is better not to pray anymore and not to hope anymore because it is less hurting when you experience frustrations in life inspite of all your good deeds and sacrifices just to be good. No wonder why people either end up in the cemetery (suicide) or mental hospital (insanity). Some became zombies, living dead, no sense of meaning in life, mechanical robotic routinary life!

Why is it that those who are bad are the ones becoming rich and successful?
It is unfair! Life is unfair! Life comes from God! God is unfair!!!

Crab Mentality

2006-12-01T09:23:00.000+08:00

This is the reason why the Philippines is going nowhere. The intelligent and multi-talented Filipinos are leaving the country because they are victims of crab mentality. They are threats to those mediocres who are not doing something for their ownselves to become better. But, instead, they do negative politicking in the organization where they work against those gifted Filipinos who can offer a lot based on their achievements and credentials.

These crabs cannot get what those achievers have and the only thing that they can do is to do negative acts (professional jealousy/envy) by being crabs. Always remember that "You cannot put a good man down" because this man will always shine wherever he goes.

What is happening is the sad reality that your strengths become your liabilities.

Capitalism

2006-11-05T10:11:00.000+08:00

This has been much talked about issue in history in relation to economics. The problem is even if capitalism is the prevailing system being followed at the present time by business enterprises.

Speaking of business enterprise, an academic institution (school) also follows the capitalist principle which is maximum profit regardless of this dignity of the employees. This principle is against morality and ethics. It is immoral because the management is only after for its optimum financial gains and not benefits or salary of employees. The concerns of the employees are always the last priority.

It is a sad reality that the future of the business will always have employee factor which is taken for granted and yet they are treated like slaves. The management will not follow labor laws but instead challenge or twist the law in their favor. This injustice is existing even in schools, college and unversities.

Everybody will die. The only question is the impact and the quantity of people who were affected by our action either negative or positive. How many were miserable or happy because of you?

There is always karma or the golden rule. If ever you have done wrong, for sure bad karma will be experienced by your clan and future generation stemming from your family tree.

When we have done so much wrong against others, for sure we will suffer a lot in purgatory. Always remember that one day in purgatory is equivalent to 100 days here on earth.

Brotherhood Within The Perspective Of Sense Of Self

2006-11-06T15:34:00.000+08:00

Brotherhood is a common term, but, what is the meaning of this term? For me, brotherhood is a collective word for the essential values which every person should possess in order to transcend the sovereignty of nations.

What are these essential values? Sense of self, unity, understanding, respect, dignity, honesty, peace, hope, trust, faith and nationalism are the so-called values embedded in brotherhood.

Sense of self is the foundation of all these essential values because a person without a sense of self will never attain anything. There are four components/stages of sense of self: Self-knowledge, Self-acceptance, Self-love, and Self-transformation.

Self-knowledge is being aware of one’s weaknesses and strengths. What are you going to do with your weaknesses and strengths? You have to give solution to your weaknesses in order for it to become your strengths. Then, develop your strengths and make it better because you are living in a competitive world. Try to perfect your craft so that no one can take it away from you. Therefore, everything becomes your strengths. You become a fully competitive, secured and positive person in the process of self-knowledge which you only owe to yourself.

Self-acceptance is the acknowledgement of both weaknesses and strengths in the positive change process. It is easy to love one’s self once you accepted yourself. Self-love is helping one’s self grow and develop to the fullest good by nurturing the positive potentials within and eradicating the negatives in the process of perfection.

When self-love has been attained, the challenge is to reach the apex of self-foundation which is self-transformation. It is almost automatic to achieve self-transformation when somebody has reached the level of self-love because changing one’s self to be the best that you can become is geared towards self-transformation.

Self-transformation is the product of the first three stages of sense of self. It is the time when you feel that you have to offer something for the betterment of the society.

In analysis of the sense of self, you cannot know others if you don’t know yourself. You cannot accept others if you cannot accept yourself. You cannot love others if you don’t love yourself. And, you cannot transform society if you cannot transform yourself first.

Everything is within one’s self. That’s why, whatever positive in us within the sense of self emanates the transcendence process of sovereignty of nations. It is because each nation is composed of people who are in journey with their sense of self and at the same time experiencing the shared process of brotherhood among them.

The transcending process out of brotherhood of man based on the sense of self liberates every man of each nation to achieve its common goal of goodness to make this world a better world to live in as we co-exist in building this world with harmony and interdependence considering our unique cultural heritage and history.

This sense of self brings about unity and understanding among individuals of all nations. In unity there is strength in fulfilling a common purpose of brotherhood of man. In understanding each individual concerns, respect to one’s dignity exists. Respect to the cultural independence of all nations creates a unity in diversity.

In connection with this, trust, faith and honesty are necessary to transcend the sovereignty of nations out of the brotherhood of man. Trust builds a deep interpersonal relationship which solidifies the quality of brotherhood. Faith makes the light burning from within in order to move on in life. Honesty gives character to a person.

Thus, in spite of cultural differences, every person of each race embracing its own nationalism is continuing to hope for meaning in life. This hope for meaning in life propels the brotherhood of man. Therefore, this brotherhood of man transcends the sovereignty of nations based from the sense of self of men of diversified cultures.

Once the brotherhood of man was put into practice, there is no question why sovereignty of nations will not be attained. But, the question is, do we have the capacity to focus on our own sense of self in order for brotherhood of man be realized?

We have to start from the basic premise, "Know Thyself", which is our selfhood. The future of brotherhood of man in relation to its transcending process of sovereignty of nations will only depend on the quality of the sense of self of all of us living in this planet.

If we want to achieve our common goal of brotherhood in order for sovereignty to exist, we have to start to process the sense of self among us now or never! This is the challenge to all of us in order to have a world of tomorrow anchored on peace, unity, understanding, justice, hope, respect, dignity, love, honesty, trust, faith and nationalism.("Unity in Diversity").

Let us make freedom and independence be a reality out of our respect to cultural diversity of nations! Let us make this brotherhood and sovereignty our legacy to humanity! Let us make all of these ideals happen NOW!!!

Entrepreneurship

2006-10-05T11:20:00.000+08:00

We are always experiencing hard times and we need to survive economically in order to have a descent life. There are two polarities in this issue: to be self-employed or to be an employee.

If you will be an employee forever, you will never have the chance of becoming rich. But, to be self-employed coupled with hard work and perseverance, there is always the possibility of becoming materially wealthy. Most of the rich people now are entrepreneurs or businessmen. They created their own company, employed a lot of people and helped the country.

But, the question with entrepreneurship is sustainability, meaning until when will it last, will it be forever because there is always a space for bankruptsy.

The ideal strategy is you have both, so that you have a fall back in case of danger. Be an employee for sure income and have a business as your sideline for additional income. In the future, it is your decision which to prioritize or even decide to focus on one thing only.

Just Shut Up, If You Can't Say Anything Good!

2006-10-03T14:16:00.000+08:00

Due to insecurity, professional jealousy or envy or simply call it crab mentality. Filipinos are fond of uttering nasty or just being mean against their fellow Filipinos. It is so pathetic that this is the only way an individual can be even with somebody higher than him/her in whatever case it maybe.

This is because you don't hsve what the other person has, you look for waht ever negative the person might have because nobody is perfect and you try to ventilate it consciously or unconsciously with other people to ruin the other person.

Just shut up, if you can't say anything good! If you can't help yourself to become good or better, just mind your own business and don't affect others of your own miseries. There are many people who are just good in complaining but they don't act on their own complaints directly.

This is the reason why this country will go nowhere because there are many Filipinos who are problem-oriented and not solution-oriented.

Bisexuality

2006-10-04T11:08:00.000+08:00

Having both worlds-male and female! This is the trend now among singles and married men. Why? It is because people are not satisfied with one flavor, people look for something different always even in terms of sexuality.

There is always the tendency for human beings to be bored of having similar thing and so they explore to find something different. This is human nature whether it is consciously or unconsciously in relation to sexuality. The concept of forbidden love makes an individual search for the taste of it especially when it is taboo. Humans feel more thrilled, challenged about adventuresome when it is forbidden especially in sexuality. This is the mystery of human sexuality.

There are many cases when some playboys or womanizers become manizers or playgirls because they tried a lot of girls and there came a point in their lives when they wanted something different - same sex. This could be a phenomenon but this is an on-going reality in our society. Will it stop? I don't think so!

What about the issue of morality or ethics? Traditionally speaking, it is wrong to experience such. But, nowadays, almost everything is relative, it depends! It is for the person to decide. It is a choice with equivalent responsibility or accountability. It is a controversial issue of HAPPINESS!

Single Blessedness Is A Calling

2006-10-02T18:48:00.000+08:00

Life is indeed unfair because there are many unwritten rules in the society which are unjust to humanity. One major issue is in relation to one's vocation- whether married, single or priest/nun.

What is the unwritten rule? Society will demand and judge you automatically that if you are not a priest or nun, you have to get married or else you are gay or lesbian. Others will even say that if you are "good looking" you are either gay/lesbian or taken. These are toxic ideas or fallacies which are affecting one's mental hygiene or mental health. Society is very cruel. These are not true and people believe it to be true. That's why they marry for wrong reasons and just end up in the statistics of broken marriages which is the trend now.

Society rejected the reality of "Single Blessedness!" Sometimes some think to be single is a misnimer. They simply forget single blessedness is a calling! It is even a choice! Is it hard to believe that there are people who are not really for marriage? Others will say that if you are happy being single why marry somebody you don't even know and take the risk of getting into a relationship which is sometimes bound to fail due to varied reasons?

Sometimes, due to societal pressure, those who are being doubted to be gay or lesbian even if it is not true tend to rebel in the society and so they make it happen.They decided to explore what is this societal prejudice of homosexuality among singles. Sad to say, some enjoyed the thrill/adventure of it and at the end they become gay/lesbian.

People don't get married for so many reasons which narrowminded individuals cannot understand and instead of minding their own business, they will start rumor mmongering or the business of gossip which is very much or highly profitable nowadays. Reasons of poverty, hereditary fatal disease, character/attitude problem and other logical justifications are just being responsible individuals for becoming singles for life. They just don't want to victimize their future children to experience the bad genetics and questionable environment we live in today. This is acceptable which others cannot understand.

It is fearful to marry nowadays because there is an escalating number of married couples undergoing annulment due to reasons they only know. Love is not only the ingredient of long and lasting married relationship. If you cannot supply the financial demands of married life, love will exit and later on annulment will follow or problems of infidelity etc. Gone are the days of our grandparents and parents where fidelity was still at least a value. But in the here and now, we are living in a different world where infidelity is the name of the game. As if, if you are not an infidel, you are not in.

In every vocation, whether you are married, single or priest/nun, there are always advantages and disadvantages. Let us just respect one's vocation and pray for their success and happiness and stop mocking each other's vocation.

"The best is you are preventing the unfair victimization on innocent children." Life is a risk, it is a choice, sad if you are a victim of life you did not choose. Could it be possible? You alone can answer that based from your own experience.

By the way, there are gay priests, lesbian nuns, gay/lesbian married individuals, in other words, just a cover-up of their own homosexuality. Therefore, it is really unfair to single out that singles are homosexuals because they chose not to get married or priest/nun. Sometimes, this judgemental attitude is simply a projection of their own homosexuality.

Being Tired Of Life?

2006-09-25T16:51:00.000+08:00

Are you tired of living? Did you ever ask yourself why you still continue hoping in life? In other words, what makes you live?

These are basic questions one should directly answer in order not to lose track in life. If you are going to ask me, I have one reason, it is because I am living my mission in life- "Anything but Psychology." I am clear in my purpose in life inspite of the realities of life. In the end, it is for the betterment of the society through simple or little steps toward societal transformation through self-transformation because of "Psychology."

Psychology is the foundation to the solution of humanity's basic problems. Psychologists make it happen and thus, helping people go back to God by deepening one's faith. In doing so, self-transformation towards societal transformation will not be impossible. Psycho-Spiritual Wholistic Approach to Life.

As you let people go near to God, you become upclose and personal with God. You ask more of God's divine presence within as you prepare yourself to be with Him in heaven.

Taking Advantage

2006-09-18T09:34:00.000+08:00

The best kind of taking advantage is to take advantage of doing good to others. If there is an opportunity for you to help others, have the initiative of doing it because it is very noble to do so.

But, there are only a few among us who are choosing to go out of our way just to help out and be of service to others. Most people took advantage of others negatively by using them for their own good and honor being an opportunist at the expense of others and to own something which are not theirs in different ways and many more.

Most people who took advantage of ohers negatively do not have anything and they have a lot of needs within to fill-in their own insecurities. Unfortunately, they chose to do it in the wrong way in jeopardy of others.

Again, these people would need professional help from psychologist or psychiatrist. Pray for their enlightenment especially if it is their blind spot.

The End

2006-09-11T13:28:00.000+08:00

There is always an end to everything either good or bad circumstances in life. Sad to say, there are people who thought they are "immortals" or "gods/goddesses" who will live forever and they never stop inflicting miseries to other people through graft, corruption and injustices of varied forms.

We should not forget that we will all die and it is nice that people will regret our death because we had done a lot of service to them rather than people are praying for our early death even if we are still alive due to the fact that we are causing them a lot of negative than positive events in life.

If you are catholic, in our faith, we believe in purgatory. It is a place of purification where the means of purifying one's soul is through fire but it will end when we are cleansed already. One day is purgatory is equivalent to one thousand days here on earth.

As long as we have done a lot of good than evil and we are sure that we have helped a lot of people, then for sure God will reward us at least shorter stop over in purgatory for our soul roasting.

Injustice

2006-09-04T13:06:00.000+08:00

It is unfortunate that there are many people who are victims of varied forms of injustice in the society like in the workplace either in government or private institutions. At home, the family is the breeding ground of injustice especially if the family is dysfunctional. This is the root cause of injustice, the family it is because justice is minimal among members of the family.

Abused of authority is the most common form of injustice either in the workplace or in the family. Parents and immediate superiors in the office for example are the culprits of this kind of injustice. Bosses will exploit their subordinates like sexual harrasment or unfair labor practices. Parents will play favorites to their children.

Those who are doing injustices to others are people who have many insecurities within. They normally used their authority or position as their defense mechanism to their own weaknesses. They need professional help (ASAP). Just pity them. Pray for their healing.

Sainthood

2006-08-28T14:11:00.000+08:00

Have you ever thought of becoming a saint? We are all called for sainthood. Who are saints? They are ordinary persons who just did something extraordinary in their lifetime.

Sainthood is trying our best to perfect the imperfect in us inspite of our weaknesses and sinfulness. That is why anybody can become a saint if we only will it and discipline our selves.

he psychology behind sainthood for me is that every person's behavior is either consciously or unconsciously done from the conscious and subconscious levels of our mind. Thus, the mental processes should be well thought of in order to be purified towards goodness. But, those beyond our control or our blind spot should be offered and surrendered to God for His grace to enter our being.

Problems

2006-08-21T09:21:00.000+08:00

Some people look at situations in life as challenges but for some problems. Life depends on our outlook in every circumstance of daily living.

Facing varied events in life describes the character of an individual either weak or strong. We have to choose to become strong in encountering trials in life. We should not choose to be weak because it is the beginning of problems in us.

There are many factors to be considered in building the character of a person. Genetics and environment are major factors because heredity, family and people in general influence character formation.

Our conscious effort to change in order to become good or better is necessary despite of the realities of life.

Mental Hygiene

2006-08-14T08:18:00.000+08:00

We take good care of our physical self by taking a bath, brushing our teeth, exercise, good nutrition, enough sleep, and the like. But, what about our mental hygiene?

We should also take care of our mind in order to be happy and successful in life. Positive thinking is the foundation of mental hygiene in order to focus one's direction in life. But, the question is, are we positive? Always remember that positive energy will attract positive vibration also and if not, there will be a "short circuit" in our mindfulness which will lead to negative currents.

Be positive in all the things you do as long as it is for your own good and common good.

Suicide

2006-08-07T16:12:00.000+08:00

It was broadcasted in one of the top rated tv news programs last year that there was an increased suicide rate in the Philippines. The question is why?

The reasons differ from one person to another whether rich or poor. But, the bottomline of the issue is that there is meaninglessness among Filipinos who chose to commit suicide. When somebody starts to experience meaninglessness in life, he starts to feel hopeless in everything he tries to do. Thus, absurdity in one's outlook in life prevails within the human system.

Every human being has suicidal tendency. For some who were successful in ending one's life is a pity that such act has not been prevented. How could it be prevented from happening?

The best way to prevent such bad scenario to happen is to have a positive mind in order to have positive emotion for positive behavior to follow. It is easily said than done because when you are facing a difficult problem, it is seldom that you remember to be always positive. The normal reaction is to be negative, that's why the solution to the problem is hard to find.

What is it to have meaning in life in order for positiveness to be internalized within? Searching for meaning in life is a primordial goal of every individual because the individual owes it to his own self. Finding meaning in life makes this individual be secured of his day to day life. It gives direction to his future endeavor which makes suicide no sense at all.

Thus, if every Filipino has a meaningful life, Philippines will become a good country to live in. It is because Filipinos developed inner: joy, peace, charity, faith, justice, trust and sense of self. Through these inner virtues and values, a sincere mission in life is being discovered which is a manifestation of an internalized positiveness from within.

Our mission qualifies our sense of nationhood because this mission anchored upon positiveness is the start of a good beginning to transform our country from where it is now to a good Philippines.

As a matter of fact, a positive mission is the result of a positive vision. A vision which is to be the best that we can become is in order to have a country capable of becoming the best that it can be.

Mission

2006-07-24T11:42:00.000+08:00

The most secured individual in the human race is the one with a profound Mission in life. It takes a lot of investment in time towards the process of mission building.

What are the ingredients of mission building? A person should have searched and found meaning in life which is time-bound or timeless. The question here is when? Better late than never, at least in your lifetime you successfully achieved such milestone within you.

After the search and rescue operation, the person should affirmly and strongly believe that it is his mission without any single doubt coupled with many signs of justification of mission based from the experiences encountered during the search process.

Then, it is time for the person to apply the mission with guidance from God based on his faith wherein God will always send messages and signs through events, people and other circumstances in life to confirm that you are on the right track of your Mission. This is God's revelation. He is revealing Himself to us, talking and touching us through these essentials in order for us to continue our Mission to God and mankind for God's Kingdom to reign here on earth or heaven on earth. Therefore, discernment and sensitivity are necessary to the mission proper.

All of us are missionaries, meaning, we have a mission to fulfill. It is only dependent on how receptive we are with the events in our lives.

Meaning

2006-07-17T11:37:00.000+08:00

Do you see meaning in what you are doing right now? Or, do you do those things for art sake? In other words, what is your usual motivation in life? Is life mechanical or routinary for you or you go beyond what life can offer you?

Sad to say, most individuals are "Zombies" right now. They are living dead. They just exist for art sake. They do things because they were told to do so and also because most people are doing it (a necessity). They don't go beyond or deeper to what life is all about. Worst, when they are bored in life they would either commit suicide (or become criminals) or end up in mental hospital. This is the reason why our country or the world in general is going nowhere. It becomes a "survival of the fittest", just like in the jungle during the pre-historic times. It is a modern day survival where those unfit either end up in jail, cemetery, mental hospital or other contemporary rehabilitation institutions. Thus, in relation to this, the unwritten rule of the society which is the winners or successful persons are always welcome and given praises while the losers and failures are shunned and discriminated, is very much prevalent in our present day survival challenge.

Searching for meaning in life is a serious mental exercise where commitment is important in order to find meaning in life. It is going beyond one's existence and looking back to what had been done so far. Thus, from there, where to? It is being sensitive to all the experiences in life and connecting from one event to another. Then, look for the messages of those encounters which will give you the meaning of it all.

Happiness

2006-07-10T11:26:00.000+08:00

Why is happiness hard to achieve? It is because most persons do not know the essence of life. They question why they exist and suffer from different issues in life. In the first place, do people know who they are? This is a basic question that every human being should answer in order to be successful and happy.

Self-knowledge is the key in order to find direction in life. Knowing our weaknesses and strengths will give us the tips on what we have to do with ourselves. Thus, if we gain the foundation of self-knowledge, then self-acceptance, self-love and self-transformation will automatically follow.

After reaching self-transformation, we form within us a sense of self which will lead us to the essence of life. The essence of life is for us to be happy in the practice of our profession (calling or vocation). Our profession is service to others and therefore it is love/charity because we do it in order to help others and ourselves economically and other reasons or motivations of our existence. This profession qualifies our God-given potentials/talents and justifies the application of self-knowledge(strengths) or sense of self per se.

In doing so, we find fulfillment in what we are doing and when we enjoy doing it, it is no longer work for us because it becomes a second nature within. Therefore, we can say that we are happy which will become "inner joy." Being happy is momentarily but inner joy is forever. Let us deepen the source of our happiness in order for us to have inner joy.

Schizophrenia

2006-07-03T11:19:00.000+08:00

Schizophrenia is a mental disorder which affects the individual's thought processes. It is obviously characterize by voices being heard by the individual suffering from this didorder.

When an individual is suffering from severe depression, there is a greater tendency to experience schizophrenia due to the fact that there are conflicting thoughts that would come in within the mind of such individual.

This could also be hereditary or acquired. Hereditary in the sense that if the mother is schizophrenic, there is a higher possibility for children to inherit such, just like what happened to most of my patients. It could be acquired when the individual could not cope with his depressive mental state.

It is very much necessary for individuals to learn to be positive at all times in order not to be affected of the negative situations in the environment. Try to focus on the good and always count your blessings inspite of the realities of life. Don't forget to pray and increase one's faith in God despite of all the circumstances in daily living.

Anxiety

2006-06-26T09:29:00.000+08:00

You cannot sleep, concentrate, work anymore because something is bothering you. Whatever is in your mind and heart, let it go. If you can’t do it, and it is affecting you so much, it is now a general anxiety disorder.

It is hard to move on in life if there is something at the back of your mind that you are thinking or always on guard of. As if you have an invisible enemy that anytime will attack you. That enemy is your anxiety or anxiety disorder.

The best thing to do is to analyze what happened, accept it, do your best to solve it and if everything has been done through the help of a psychologist, the last thing that you have to do in order to have peace of mind, heart and spirit is to offer it to God. Do your best and God will do the rest. Trust in God! Relax!

Obsession-Compulsion

2006-06-19T14:57:00.000+08:00

Have you ever encounter a person who is always having repetitive irrational or illogical thoughts? a person who is always having repetitive irrational or illogical actions? This person always thinks and acts differently and yet nothing happens to him/her. An example of a repetitive irrational thought is, “I should have done that, if ever, I won in the competition.” The point is the competition is finished and you did not win. Accept the reality and stop thinking of what should have done. Just learn from your experience so that next time you know what to be done in order to win in the competition. This is obsession.

A person will always go to a mall and spend all his/her money on buying anything. Then, he/she will just put all of those things he/she bought and will not use it at all. This is compulsion.

This becomes an obsessive-compulsive disorder when it is affecting the person’s total activity which makes the person angry up to the extent of isolating his/her own self to the people.

If you know somebody like this, please refer this individual to a psychologist especially when he/she is affecting already the people around.

Panic

2006-06-12T14:20:00.000+08:00

Why are there people spending a lot of money in consultation with their doctors of varied specializations and just knowing the diagnosis that they are negative of any kind of disease? And yet, inspite of the diagnosis they still experience difficulty in breathing, body tremors, stomach rumblings and other physical discomforts.

If the medical examinations are complete, meaning everything is checked in terms of physical pains for example and the doctors cleared the person of any disease, then there is only one obvious reason for this. The answer is the person is experiencing a psychological stress specifically known as panic, thus it affects the person very much, a panic disorder.

Why so? The person in this kind of disorder experienced a lot of stress due to varied factors since childhood up to the present time like trauma, anxiety, deep emotional problems, phobia, personal and relational issues which happened in the family, school, and present employment. These unresolved issues were repressed, denied, forgotten and never being processed by the person. These baggages or garbages piled up in the subconscious mind until a major event happened and triggered the brain to be out of control. Therefore, the brain can’t function anymore to its normal activity, that’s why the body reacts to it negatively and the person experienced panic.

Again, a psychologist is needed to treat a panic disorder to alleviate the sufferings of the person who thinks that he might die or be psychotic and run naked in public.